I'm pretty sure a wife would be equally upset if her husband cheated with another woman regardless of how much he spent on her.
You'd be surprised how many "arrangements" are tacitly agreed to and only fall apart when the man starts spending too much money/time on his new girlfriend.
fabio wrote:
Have you met many women who have no girlfriends? They tend to be that way because nobody can stand being around her unless they want to fuck her.
MM is arguing that this is a result of women shunning and shaming, not the cause of it. There's as much variation in personality types among women as there is in men. If a woman is the type of person that doesn't like most people (a Caltrops-type, let's say), she's going to have a far more difficult time in same-sex socializing than a male who doesn't like most people, thanks to the increased social pressure on women to join and conform.
fabio wrote:
Have you met many total sluts? They tend to be unstable messes.
You're saying the unstable mess leads to sluttiness, when it might be the other way around: a woman enjoys NSA sex, the people around her find out, and she can't deal with the social repercussions because she's been conditioned by society to derive her entire self-worth from the approval of others.
fabio wrote:
I don't think you've been watching much news if you think celebrity being destroyed by sleeping around only applies to women.
Only if you're married. John Mayer is the most popular white guy in the history of white guys. (Isn't he? I don't know who keeps track of this stuff.)
fabio wrote:
Why has nobody mentioned the simple fact that men are more reliant on charm and a sense of humor to get laid?
That's an oversimplification, I think. The kind of humor that appeals to women -- conspiratorial, cutting, transgressive-to-say-but-not-so-transgressive-to-laugh-at -- is a limited subset of the broad range of humor men find enjoyable. Or to put it another way: if you're funny in a slapstick, Three Stooges way you're not going to get laid much.
So it's charm over sense of humor: the ability to intuitively sense a person's boundaries and press riiiiight up against them without going far enough to make them uncomfortable. You're absolutely right in that there is far more competitive pressure on men to develop an actual personality than there is on women, though. Lots of dudes don't even like a personality on their women. Gets in the way, they say.
This also makes me think of that Belle Knox thing. She says that "doing pornography fulfills her" but she wants her "privacy respected" -- she wants all the benefits but none of the burden. She wants the respect afforded to any given woman off the street, but everything she does tells us that she doesn't even view herself as deserving of that respect.
You know why men don't respect porn stars specifically and sex workers in general? It bears repeating:
You have decided to enter an industry where literally any female is qualified and employable. Rather than build yourself up, distinguish yourself, improve yourself, develop and hone marketable skills, rather than devote time and effort towards developing inherent worth not derived from a biological quirk of nature, you have decided that you are literally nothing more than a series of holes to be used. That's it. Fungible and replaceable, no appreciable difference from the series of holes on any other female.
This is the decision about your path in life that you've made. And you want me to respect you? Fuck outta here. Only an 18 year old could have that kind of arrogance.
